Stop Absorbing Negative Emotions from People! Here is how
Absorbing Negative Emotions is the last thing that we want! Emotions such as anger, fear and frustration are all energies. You can potentially ‘attach” them from people without even realizing it. If you are an emotional sponge (and you’re human!), it’s crucial to know how to avoid taking on an individual’s negative emotions. It’s important to learn how to deflect the free-floating negativities in crowds.
Stress, chronic anxiety or depression can turn you into an emotional sponge by wearing down your defenses. Suddenly, you become hyper-sensitive to others, especially suffering with similar pain. That’s how empathy works.
From an energetic point of view, absorbing negative emotions can come from several sources: the feeling that you have may be your own; it may be someone else’s; or it may be a combination.
Here we can explain the difference and how strategically bolster your positive emotions so you don’t shoulder negativity that doesn’t belong to you.
Stop Absorbing Negative Emotions from Other People
Identify whether you’re susceptible.
The person most likely to be overwhelmed by negative energies surrounding you is an “empath”, someone who acts as an “emotional sponge”. Signs that you might be an empath include:
- People call you“overly sensitive” or “hyper-sensitive”, and they don’t give you a compliment!
- You sense anxiety, fear and stress from other people and draw this into your body, resolving them as your own symptoms or physical pain.
- It doesn’t have to be people you don’t like or don’t know; family, friends and colleagues impact you as well.
- You quickly feel drained, exhausted and unhappy in the presence of crowds.
- Smells, noise and excessive talking can set off your anxiety and
- To recharge your energy, you need to be alone
- You’re less likely to intellectualize what you’re feeling.
- Your feelings are easily hurt.
- You’re naturally generous, giving, inclined, spiritually and a very good listener.
- You tend to ensure that you’ve got an escape plan, for example bringing your own car to events, etc.
- The intimacy of close relationships can feel like suffocation or loss of your own self.
Seek the source.
First, ask yourself whether the feeling someone else’s or your own. It could be combination of both. If the emotion such as anger or fear is yours, confront what’s causing it with professional help or on your own. If not, try to pinpoint the obvious generator. For example, if you’ve just finished watching a comedy, you still came home from the movie feeling blue; You are maybe depressed of the people sitting around or beside you; in close proximity, energy fields overlap. The same is true with going to a concert or mall. If crowded places overwhelm or upset you, then maybe you’re absorbing all the negative energy around you. That’s why you feel like that.
Where possible, distance yourself from the suspected source.
Move away and see if you feel relief. Don’t err on the side of not wanting to offend strangers. In a public place, if you feel a sense of depression imposing on you, don’t hesitate to change seats.
Concentrate on your breath.
Doing this on “correct” way connects you to your essence. For a few minutes, keep exhaling negativity, inhaling calm. This helps to purify fear or other difficult emotions. Visualize negativity as gray fog lifting from your body, and hope as golden light entering. This can yield quick results.
Flush out the harm.
Absorbing negative emotions such as fear frequently lodge in your emotional center at the solar plexus. To flush stress out, place your palm on your solar plexus as you keep sending loving-kindness to that area. For longstanding anxiety or depression, use this method daily to strengthen this center. It’s comforting and it builds a sense of safety and optimism as it becomes a ritual.
A handy form of protection many people use, including healers with trying patients, involves visualizing an envelope of white light (or any color you feel imparts power) around your entire body. Think of it as a shield that blocks out negativity or physical discomfort but allows what’s positive to filter in.
Control the emotional overload.
You don’t need to be beholden to your ability to absorb other’s emotions; turn the curse into a gift by practicing strategies that can free you: Learn to recognize people who can bring you down. People who are particularly difficult for emotional empathy include the narcissist,criticizer, the victim and the controller. Judith Orloff terms these people “emotional vampires”. When you know how to spot these behaviors, you can protect yourself against them, including removing yourself from their presence, and telling yourself that “I respect the person you are within even though I don’t like what you’re doing.” Eat a high protein meal before entering stressful situations such as being part of a crowd.
When in a crowd, find places of refuge, such as sitting on the edges, or standing apart. Ensure that you don’t have to rely on other people to get you out of difficult situations. Bring your own car or know how to get home easily when needed. Have sufficient funds to be able to make alternate arrangements if you start feeling overwhelmed.
Set time limits. Knowing how much you can stand and obeying that limit is vital to ensure your mental well-being. Also set kind but meaningful boundaries with others who overwhelm you; don’t stand around listening to them talking for two hours when you can only cope with half an hour. Have your own private place in a home shared with others. Ask others to respect your downtime during which you can rejuvenate. This is especially important to prevent you from taking on your partner’s feelings too much. A study, man cave, sewing room, reading nook, etc., all offer your own space. Practice meditation and mindfulness.
Look for positive situations and stop Absorbing Negative Emotions
Call a friend who sees the good in others. Spend time with a colleague who affirms the bright side of things. Listen to hopeful people. Hear the faith they have in themselves and others. Also relish hopeful words, songs, and art forms. Hope is contagious and it will lift your mood. Cultivate positive emotions that boost your inner strength. If you’re surrounded by peace and love, you’ll flourish as strongly as negative emotions cause you to wilt. Respecting your own needs through healthy self love will increase your ability to respect others. Learn to use compassion as a way to defend yourself against overwhelming emotions. Compassion allows you to be empathetic to the plight of other people but also requires that you are compassionate toward yourself.
This means that you don’t need to feel guilty about seeking respite from being overwhelmed; doing so ensures that you can be more engaged with others in the long run, rather than less so. It also means that you keep yourself whole by not immersing yourself in the world of negative people.
Create and maintain a haven for disengagement.
Leave many paths open that lead to communing with the resonance of nature. Returning to your rightful home as a creature of nature switches off your victim mentality and recharges you energetically and spiritually. Keep a picture of lush forest or a waterfall with you and look at it when overwhelmed. Step onto the quiet of a forest path or absorb the coolness of a gently babbling brook from beneath a weeping willow. Maintain a personal space of cozy retreat where you hook into your own personal energy and power. Find time to practice breathing techniques and Yoga. These draw upon emotional centering and provide safe harbor in times of storm.