Are Your Children Narcissistic? This Parenting Trait Produce These Type of Kids!
Narcissistic Children or Adults. Narcissism. We all have a general idea what does that mean. Maybe you have experienced a narcissistic individuals around you. Maybe you have heard stories how they impact people around them. But one thing is clear: they can be more than a bit unpleasant.
“Narcissistic personality disorder is in fact a mental disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance. They have a lack of empathy for others and a deep need for admiration. But behind this mask of ultra confidence lies a fragile self-esteem that’s vulnerable to the slightest criticism.
Narcissism can be a genetic characteristic, but, more often than not, it is developed overtime in relation to a specific parenting style.
Researchers wanted to know what parenting styles were more likely to create a narcissistic personality. So, they took a survey on exactly 565 children between 7 – 11 years old. They also made interviewes with their parents (415 mothers and 290 fathers).
The results showed that parents express excessiv admiration to their children. They tell them that they are superior to others, and deserve special treatment. These kids are more likely to become narcissistic children who may grow up to be narcissistic adults.
This is particularly true for children between the ages of 7 – 11.
Researchers stated in Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences:
“When parent see their children more important, more entitled and more special than other children, they may actually incorporate or internalize the view that as individuals, they are superior. It is actually a view that is at the core of narcissism.
But when parents treat their own children with appreciation and affection, they may in fact incorporate the view that they are valuable individuals. That’s a view that is at the core of self-esteem.”
In fact, it is very important to show attention and affection. Bot not teach your children that they have your affection because they are better than everyone else. It is also important to remember that narcissism may develop because of a child’s need to protect an insecurity.
There are a lot of ways to help children feel good about themselves.
You can do that without encouraging narcissistic tendencies.
Here are some great tips!
Teach children to connect and not impress
Make sure to tell your kid you love spending time with him or her because you love him or her, not because of what the child can do. Your child will mimic this in future relationships.
Children need to understand that their actions can hurt another person. By teaching your child to be aware of other’s emotions or feelings, you are giving them social skills that will stay with them into adulthood.
It is important to allow your children to build friendships. Friends will tell them the truth and teach them that they do not need to be perfect to be liked. These times are also ideal for teaching your child how their actions affect others.
At their root, most narcissists, and especially narcissistic children, have low self-esteem. Discipline is important, but do it with respect and care. Remind them that it is okay to make mistakes, but it is important to apologize. They know they did something wrong. Teach them how to make it right.
To learn more about how not to raise a narcissistic child, take a look at the video below!